Monday, December 24, 2018

Christmas Eve 2018



I Heard the Bells on Christmas Day
1. I heard the bells on Christmas day
Their old familiar carols play,
And wild and sweet the words repeat
Of peace on earth, good will to men.
2. I thought how, as the day had come,
The belfries of all Christendom
Had rolled along th’unbroken song
Of peace on earth, good will to men.
3. And in despair I bowed my head:
“There is no peace on earth,” I said,
“For hate is strong and mocks the song
Of peace on earth, good will to men.”
4. Then pealed the bells more loud and deep:
“God is not dead, nor doth he sleep;
The wrong shall fail, the right prevail,
With peace on earth, good will to men.”
5. Till, ringing, singing, on its way,
The world revolved from night to day,
A voice, a chime, a chant sublime,
Of peace on earth, good will to men!
Text: Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, 1807–1882
Music: John Baptiste Calkin, 1827–1905

Sunday, December 23, 2018

Angels Among Us


 I mostly finished the “Fruit Heights 7th Ward Relief Society Neighborhood Angel Experiences.” If you want to get deeply depressed, you can borrow my copy when I’m done, which is actually my visiting teacher, Jeanne’s copy, since I didn’t go to the Christmas social and get one myself (or Joy may have dropped it on my front porch). There are 48 “Angel Experiences” in a lovely binder compiled by Joy Thomas.
Some people were named; some were anonymous.
Most were about people who had done service for them, like bringing in meals, tending children, cleaning house, gifts, flowers. I love little acts of kindness, little deed of love; still, it sort of made me sad in two ways:
I haven’t done much of that for anyone.
No one has done much of that for me.
Then I thought of one angel that I don’t think anyone mentioned. It is the Angel who takes care of her own family, quietly, without fanfare or help, day in and day out, year in and year out through thick and thin.  
The Angel who is self-reliant, independent, selfless, noble, strong.
The one who doesn’t have to have a meal brought in with the slightest misfortune; or someone to look after her children except in dire emergency; the one who can discern a genuine need like the death of a spouse or child, a divorce, a debilitating illness whether physical or mental, a severe accident, an addiction, a special-needs child and many more.
Most people grow out of their problems, to new ones to be sure, but a few are life-long responsibilities - twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, 52 weeks a year forever and ever.  All require extraordinary courage, faith, hard work, and determination.  
Are they the actual angels among us?

Proverbs 31:10-31 King James Version
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.


Friday, December 21, 2018

The Sabbatical


Just for December, in honor of Christmas,
I decided to take a break from worrying about health issues.
I will not worry about:
Finding a lump on my breast
Or other lurking cancer cells
Bleeding hemorrhoids
A deep pain in my chest
The tumor growing outside my ear canal
Aching joints
Wheezing breathing
Diminishing sight and sound
Swallowing
I find comfort in the concept of the body healing itself.
I think it is capable.
Unless I have messed up with all the pills:
High blood pressure pills.
High cholesterol pills
Acid reflex pills
                          Thyroid pills
Cancer pills
Poisoning my system
To the point it cannot
Heal itself.
Just for December I am taking a break from worrying.



Thursday, December 20, 2018

Soup Town Siblings

On a Christmas card this year, my brother, Jerry, wrote:

Merry Christmas DeRay, Jeanette, Amy & Eddy.                December 18, 2018
Our thoughts are with you during this holiday season.
This time of year, one tends to reflect on the past and how things used to be. In our home in Orderville, we did not have a telephone, a T.V. or a radio that worked until later. The computer, cell phone and gadgets that take up so much of our time today had not been invented. We made our own games & fun. We still milked cows by hand, raised our own pork and cured the ham & bacon. Mama made butter, cottage cheese and head cheese. She bottled all of our fruit & vegetables. We walked to school and it was 5 miles and uphill both ways. That might be a bit of a stretch, but we did walk to school and if the short-cut across the flume trail was muddy, we had to walk the long way on the sidewalk. I often think of what LaNard Johnson said when we were talking to him about Daddy. He said, “We were poor back then, but didn’t know it because everyone was in the same boat.”
On my daily walk, I walk along a trail that goes along the Virgin River. When I see the water, I think that some of that water ran through Orderville – and down through the Barracks. Some of it started in Bob Creek and ran down through the Narrows.
We hope you have a great holiday season.
Love, Jerry & Lana Gale
Yip, these are the old-timers
born and reared in that era.
Siblings: Verla, Carol, Lynn & Jeanette
Lynn's wife, Juanita, wasn't in our household
but she was raised in the Valley.
Youthful Carol made a Santa out of vegetables.
Of course, we served soup
being descendants of
the Orderville United Order
and Soup Town.
Lynn brought Apple Cider made from his own apple trees;
DeRay made sour dough bread
and penoche like Mama used to put on her
Fruit Cakes.
 
Merry Christmas to All!


Friday, December 7, 2018

More


Another article on Trump’s dismal failure as leader of the free world and as a human being.
By Dana Milbank – The Washington Post
Dignitaries, politicians and family gathered at Washington National Cathedral on Dec. 5, to bid farewell to former president George H.W. Bush.
Washington - George Herbert Walker Bush, before his death, said he wanted President Trump to attend his funeral, a generous gesture that forgave the cavalcade of insults that Trump has rained on the Bush family.
It was a final show of the sound judgment Bush exercised in life.
Trump's name was mentioned not once by the four eulogists at Washington National Cathedral on Wednesday. But their words were an implicit rebuke of everything Trump is. They spoke of what made Bush a great leader, which are the very traits that, by their absence, make Trump so woefully inadequate.
During his eulogy, Bush biographer Jon Meacham identified Bush’s “thousand points of light” — a phrase Trump has ridiculed — as a “companion verse” to Abraham Lincoln’s “better angels of our nature,” because “Lincoln and Bush both called on us to choose the right over the convenient, to hope rather than to fear, and to heed not our worst impulses, but our best instincts.”
And there, in the front pew, was Trump, who leads by stoking fear and confirming base impulses.
George W. Bush recalled of his father: "In victory, he shared credit. When he lost, he shouldered the blame." Bush invoked his dad's "unlikeliest" friendship with Bill Clinton as they went from opponents to "brothers from other mothers."
Trump, a few seats from former president Clinton, alternated between folding arms impassively across his chest and leaning forward uncomfortably. Could he comprehend the ideas of giving credit, accepting blame or forgiving?
Bush friend Alan Simpson, the former Wyoming senator, said the 41st president "never hated anyone" and loyalty "coursed through his blood," including a "loyalty to the institutions of government." This must be incomprehensible to Trump, who dispenses hatred in 280-character increments, demands loyalty but offers none in return and trashes the institutions of government for sport.
And the current president, though not given to self-reflection, could not have missed the rebuke delivered by another eulogist, former Canadian prime minister Brian Mulroney, who praised Bush for negotiating the North American Free Trade Agreement (which Trump has called the "worst trade deal in history"); for environmentalism (which Trump derides); and for international leadership (which Trump dismisses).
"When George Bush was president," Mulroney said, "every single head of government in the world knew that they were dealing with a gentleman, a genuine leader, one who was distinguished, resolute and brave."
Can anybody imagine, in years hence, any world leader outside of dictators and strongmen such as Russia's Vladimir Putin or Saudi Arabia's Mohammed bin Salman paying any tribute to the current president, much less one about gentlemanliness and bravery?
Bush's funeral was so powerful a renunciation of his current successor because it was a celebration of character. Friendship was invoked 21 times by his eulogists. Loyalty, 10. "Honor," "integrity," "dignity," "decency" and inner peace all recurred. Certainly, Bush could be a fierce partisan and a brutal politician (remember Willie Horton?), but his service in World War II — he was shot down over the Pacific — left him with lessons that fueled his generation's greatness: The opposition is not the enemy. There are causes greater than self. Political defeat is not the worst thing. And American leadership in the world is indispensable.
Trump, for whom no cause is greater than self, must have struggled to sit through 90 minutes of something that was not all about him. Rather, it was all about what he is not.
Meacham, putting Bush's leadership in the style of George Washington and both Roosevelts, recalled how he "spoke with those big, strong hands" (was he trolling Trump?) and stood against totalitarianism and blind partisanship. "And on his watch, a wall fell in Berlin, a dictator's aggression did not stand, and doors across America opened to those with disabilities," Meacham said — in front of a president who would build a wall, who winks at dictators and who publicly mocked a journalist's disability.
Bush's life code, Meacham said, began with "tell the truth" and "don't blame people." The truth-challenged, finger-pointing president could only listen.
Simpson continued the tacit contrasts, recalling Bush's politically ruinous decision to strike a deal that raised taxes, because "it's not about Democrats or Republicans, it's for our country."
The 43rd president predicted that history will remember his father as a "diplomat of unmatched skill" and "a gentleman who executed the duties of his office with dignity and honor."
It already does.
The younger Bush let out a sob as he closed, then gave his father's casket a farewell pat. I choked up, too — for the decent and honorable leadership, now missing, that reflects the true greatness of America.
Dana Milbank | The Washington Post



Wednesday, December 5, 2018

Devotion to Trump


This article both comforts and scares me. It does help me understand  a little more why good, moral, temple-worthy intelligent family and friends still stand behind Trump. I always think we are smarter and better than to support a lying, cheating, irreverent, rude, selfish, uncouth, dishonest, egocentric, misogynist, mocker of the handicapped, fear- and hatemonger as President of the United States. For our culture, in particular, I think it is simply following the brethren whom we trust to never lead us astray.

 Yale psychiatrist explains how devotion to Trump
 is based on emotional patterns most people grow out of by age five
RAW STORY - Tana Ganeva Dec 3, 2018


 President Donald Trump took to Twitter on Monday to heap praise upon his ally Roger Stone, who continues to maintain his refusal to flip — even as Trump’s former fixer, Michael Cohen, who once said he’d take a bullet for the president, begged federal prosecutors to not serve jail time.
Stone might be Trump’s most infamous supporter—but there are millions of Americans who refuse to abandon the president regardless of the chaotic news cycle. A poll conducted over the summer found that many Trump supporters trust the President more than their own friends and family. Raw Story spoke with Yale psychiatry professor Bandy X. Lee on why the president’s supporters show such undying devotion to a man who’s repeatedly reneged on promises and whose tumultuous first term has been filled with shake-ups. (Lee speaks for herself, not for Yale).
Raw Story: In your opinion, what are the emotions driving Donald Trump’s base?
Bandy X. Lee: The sense of grandiose omnipotence that he displays seems especially appealing to his emotionally-needy followers. No matter what the world says, he fights back against criticism, continues to lie in the face of truth, and above all is still president. What matters is that he is winning, not whether he is honest or law-abiding. This may seem puzzling to the rest of us, but when you are overcome with feelings of powerlessness, this type of cartoonish, exaggerated force is often more important than true ability. This is the more primitive morality, as we call it, of “might makes right,” which in normal development you grow out of by age five.
But, in this case, Trump appeals to that childlike degree of emotional development? Why?
Strongman-type personalities are very appealing in times of socioeconomic or political crisis, as the population is less able to think rationally but is rather overcome with fear, or desire to draw strength from fantastical ideas. This happens to normal people in times of stress, or to people whose development has been stunted because of emotional injury. The problem is, the person who promises the impossible and states, “I alone can fix it,” and gives himself an A+ on his performance, is not a strong person who can deliver but the opposite. So Mr. Trump’s “base“ looks for someone to rescue them and their intense yearning does not allow them to see through his deception, while Mr. Trump senses better than anyone their needs (they are his) and makes use of them for his own benefit—even as he disdains his supporters for being so gullible. In this manner, they fulfill each other’s emotional needs in a mutually unhealthy way.
What’s your biggest concern?
One concern I have, in my 20 years of studying this personality structure while treating violent offenders, is the disturbing societal trend. More and more of this personality type are taking on leadership positions, including of corporations, whereas 20 years ago one would mostly find them in jails and prisons. This also means there are a growing number of people who emulate them in the general culture, who become deprived from the structures that they create, and who become emotionally traumatized as a result of any of these consequences. People who are wounded this way continue to seek omnipotent parental figures as adults, and the vicious circle continues. Unable to find outer satisfaction for their inner needs, some keep pursuing ever greater power until they reach the highest positions, but since this is the opposite of proper treatment, their conditions only grow worse while society suffers a trail of carnage. It is actually a tragedy that Mr. Trump cannot receive proper care, even as his disorder is on display for the world to see, but is rather surrounded by those who enable his illness and make use of his weaknesses to their own destructive ends.
On the one hand, different demographics that have tended to support Trump in the past—let’s say white women and neo-Nazis—don’t have much in common. Are there psychological factors that unite them?
Well, he unites them through a common, mythological past that they can all be nostalgic for, and that might be his “talent.” We know from the former Yugoslavia that this past can be hundreds of years ago, not just decades, and is really a metaphor for discontent with the self in the present. Mr. Trump’s behavioral pattern is not that of leaders at all but rather of obsequious followers, as we have seen Mr. Trump become in the presence of even more successful strongmen, such as Vladimir Putin, Kim Jong-Un, or Rodrigo Duterte. We find in him a pattern of following exactly what his base is looking for—he has no intrinsic philosophy or ideology but is responding to an emotional need for adulation and approval, and so he will try anything that gets as many people on board as possible. He will also sense keenly those who will never go along with his pathological methods—that is, healthy people—and drop them instantly. That is why we see him desperately clinging to an ever narrower base with increasingly fringe ideas.
He also has to scapegoat groups in order to distract from his billionaire cabinet, tax breaks for the rich, and trade wars that hurt his base the most, and so his demonizing of other helpless groups will only increase with time. We were worried that he might lead us into a devastating war or stage a terrorist attack, but he actually managed to turn a humanitarian crisis of people fleeing violence into an invading army that required thousands of troops at the Mexican border. If this “feigned war” fails to distract, then he may yet stage a real war. With the special counsel’s investigations about to be released, after devastating midterm elections for him and in a vulnerable economy, he will experience loss of popularity as a terrifying threat to his inflated self-image. There will likely be no limit to the violence he is capable of, since destroying the world would be nothing compared to the shame and humiliation he might suffer.
By the way, I think we need to include a very different demographic group among his supporters, which is the richest one percent. This will be the more calculating, pragmatic group. How is such a minority able to control politics and to keep convincing 99 percent of the population to give up what it has so that it can grow richer still? It is by distracting and manipulating the 99 percent through advertising, hot-button issues such as abortion, Fox News, and reality TV, which explicitly employ psychological techniques to make the population more impulsive, irrational, and ill-informed. So when the federally-funded American Psychiatric Association, which heavily depends on the pharmaceutical industry, says that psychiatrists should not comment on the president’s mental instability, we have to question: is it protecting the psychological methods that are being used to manipulate the public so as to make it more unhealthy, while blocking information that might restore its health? If mental health professionals were allowed to educate and inform the public more about psychological matters, then the population would be empowered, and healing could start replacing the damage.
How does Donald Trump mirror and communicate with his base?
A big part of this is through Twitter. This is why Mr. Trump will not stop, no matter how undignified people said it was of a president from the beginning. He knows it is his psychological lifeline. I was recently asked in an interview to comment on Twitter’s hateful conduct policy, which I read for the first time, and it was clear that he violated it from the first line, but they were not able to deactivate his account, since they know the backlash would be severe. But the only way to manage someone with his condition is to set severe limits — and restrain and remove his access to weapons—and tweets are his psychological weapon, which he “shoots” in order to exert his power.
And the rallies?
Another way he communicates with his base is through his numerous rallies. He projects a lot. Projection is a psychological term for displacing thoughts or qualities in yourself you cannot tolerate onto someone else. He does this when he calls legitimate news “fake” and news agencies “the enemy of the people.” He is unconsciously telling us that he is himself “fake news” and “the enemy of the people.” He also made up the clever slogan, “Democrats produce mobs. Republicans produce jobs.”
And that is not accurate because … 
But if you look at the statistics, the majority of the “angry mobs” that commit violence and terrorism are right-wing, while Democratic policies almost always lower unemployment rates. And when he calls Hillary Clinton “crooked” and that we should “lock her up,” he is trying to disown his fraudulent tendencies and to block thoughts of seeing himself as someone we need to lock up. The extreme exaggeration, the inability to consider the possibility that it could apply to him, and the failure to test against obvious reality give away the fact that the opposite is true, but his obedient base is predisposed to believing his defenses more than their own observations.
Trump seems to have intuited how to communicate with his base, evading the filter of the media. What do you think about that?
You are right in that it is all intuitive, not rational or logical, which would have less emotional force. Emotional power can be helpful when healthy, but when unhealthy, it can overcome all healthy approaches. As mental health professionals, we have to watch the media continue to get played, and it still has not managed to catch up. There is a phenomenon called “shared psychosis” (also called “folie à deux”) that happens when an untreated sick person is in close proximity to, say, other family members within a household. In such a situation, normal people grow increasingly out of touch with reality and take on symptoms of the person who is unwell. It can also happen with an impaired president—once in power, he becomes not only the most urgent problem that needs to be addressed but a cause of widespread deterioration of health in a way that can become a “folie à millions.” Treatment involves removing the sick individual from the others, and very quickly, the others return to normal. It shows how powerful mental sickness is: the otherwise normal person becomes sick and not the other way around. His unfettered access to the people through Twitter is as dangerous as his unfettered access to the nuclear codes, since he is laying the groundwork for a culture of violence that can unleash epidemics of violence. This is why waiting for the next decision of voters in 2020 is itself dangerous and reckless in its lack of understanding of the present danger the president poses.