Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Ed's Birthday Cruise

Our first stop was in Cedar City
to visit Shirley and her kids: Amy Jayne, Keenan and Nellie.
When we got there, 
Nellie was playing the piano while the residents ate their lunch.
Nice visit;
Nice way to start a trip.
Keenan has been reading Shirley's journal with her
to help her remember her past.
She says it's as hard to come back
as it was to leave.
As we left,
she wished Ed a Happy Birthday.
Solar panels across the desert in California.
Ed’s 44th Birthday!
He’s a year older than Daddy was when he died. Yeah.
Here at last. Ed didn’t know if he could wait but he did.
Hairy-scary 60 mile drive to ship terminal – took nearly two hours.
Parking lot was full.
(Last time we were here, we weren’t even this early
and we took the first parking space.
Brent and I ran all over the place waiting to check in.
This time, everyone is already checking in and we had to park on the 2nd tier.)
We weren’t supposed to check in until 2:30.
Nobody was supposed to check in before 1.
By 11 everyone was checking in.
Pretty streamlined but still it’s an ordeal.
Then after we finally got to our room,
I had to go all the way back to get DeRay’s cell phone from the car.
While I was gone, DeRay played Whirly Word.
Safety Drill. One of Ed’s favorite parts.
DeRay about passed out – 
standing out in the sun while they counted everyone before the life vest demonstrations. 


Note the bridge to the tent and the parking garage on the left.


Queen Mary in background.
Long Beach


Ed & I watched cast off – late.
Watched out our window – fog.
Not to worry, our captain is capable. Ed has complete trust.

 HAPPY BIRTHDAY ED! He says he hasn’t had a good day.
They brought him a piece of cake for his birthday.
"Please don't sing!"
There were quite a few birthdays and each time they sang,
he put his hands over his ears and grimaced. 
People, people everywhere.
Are we as weird as all these people?
Yes. Big groups; little groups; families; multi-families.
Crowds in all the serenity hut pods, lounge chairs, hammocks; crowds everywhere.
A day at sea.
Thomas Wolfe says you can’t go home again – 
We have decided you can’t go on a cruise again.
Ghosts from cruises past haunt us.
Where are the educational lectures?
The movies? The Book Clubs? Tai Chi on the top deck?
Crafts? Sushi?
Tours of the bridge;
Tea with the Captain.
Gigantic fresh flower bouquets?
Chocolate on the pillows each night?
Observation deck? Crow's Nest?
The photography and computer classes? Digital workshops?
The Adagios Quartets? The music? The information?
We used to talk to the help,
find out about their homelands and their families,
their troubles, and joke with them.
Where’s the excitement; the exceptional food?
There used to be ginger and treats after dinner.
Dinner was at least four courses:
1) Starter; 2) Appetizer; 3) Main course; 4) Dessert. Coffee or tea.
So many classes, lectures, history, arts and crafts, demonstrations.
You couldn’t make it to all you wanted to.
Ed liked cruises because he “learned so much.”
We saw a couple of comedians but they catered to the children.
One was so doused he started repeating himself so he quit.
Why aren’t I doing two miles around the deck?
3½ times around = 1 mile.
Don’t feel like it.
Serenity Deck for adults only.
The schools are out in Arizona this week. There are 2500 people – 
I’m sure 2,499 of them are children. 
Cabo San Lucas
Sunrise 6:31 AM; Sunset 6:30 PM
I took a tender into town.
Saw a dolphin and pelican.
Walked around – bought nothing even from our favorite store – 
had a drink of cold water I carried and came on back.
I wish Ed would go in with me.
He’d enjoy the ride.
The tenders are operated by Cabo
and are not the life boats from the ship so they are open air.
It’s a lovely ride in.
This is when I miss Amy and Brent – my beachcomber companions.




The Carnival Miracle from the Cabo Tender


“I don’t want it to end,”
Ed said when we lamented it was only the second day.
DeRay and Ed were having this little exchange over “We just ate.”
DeRay is looking at the #8 Tender
 so he implies when Ed said we just “ate” he meant “Nbr 8 tender.”
“Not e-i-g-h-t,” Ed explains, “I mean a-t-e.” 


Ed & I did the weight room for ½ hour as usual.
10 min bike 10 min elliptical 10 min treadmill.
Then we walked out on 10 deck to cool off.







DeRay is hooked on Whirly Word. I thought I brought the iPad for me.
He played until 2:30 AM one night - 'er morning.
The beds were actually very good.
There was just enough motion of the ship
that in my sleep each night it felt like the cats
were jumping up on our bed,
making us feel at home.
Three weeks later,
DeRay still feels the motion of the ship in his sleep.
Deck 11
Amy and I went down the slide
when she went to Acapulco on Carnival with us.


Washing the ship.


Puerto Vallarta.
Sunrise 6:09 AM; Sunset 6:11 PM  
The first time DeRay and Eddy have been off the ship
since we embarked on Saturday.
I found the beach Brent found when we were here about eight years ago.
He had the taxi driver drop him off in town
where he explored all afternoon
then walked the three miles back to the ship along the beach.
We had been there several times and never even knew it was there.
You just walk through the shops to the back
and there is a beautiful pristine beach.
This time it was all fenced off and I feared they had blocked the access.
IMPORTANT:
Safety first! The U.S. Embassy in Mexico has issued
safety advisories due to increased crime in the area of Puerto Vallarta.
Visitors are advised to exercise caution, particularly at night and in the early morning.
We encourage you to remain in the main tourist areas
or consider participating in an organized tour,
avoid carrying large amounts of cash or jewelry
and generally be aware of your surrounding.

I just walked across the street in front of the shops,
down a shaded sidewalk.
The steps had a rope railing so it was much more accessible than before.
There were enough people there that I felt safe.
I actually went twice since we were in Puerto Vallarta from 9 AM to 9 PM. 












We bought a poncho for Karlton for his birthday.
"How much?" "$40."
"$40???? My grandson isn't worth $40!"
They don't plan on you paying what they ask.
They just throw out a wild number.
Then DeRay had to have one because he is always freezing.
 “How much for the fat guy out there?”
"$20."
Go figure.
He wanted to put a poncho on Eddy for the picture.
He also wanted to give Eddy a little gift.
(And Trump wants to build a wall to keep
the likes of him out?
Can you imagine Trump,
out of the goodness of his heart,
giving Eddy an little piece of folk art?)
He chose a porcupine;
I chose a donkey because it seemed more Mexican.

Maybe they have porcupines in Mexico
but I've never seen one.
Of course, I've never seen a donkey either.
I have a vivid image on an older woman
dressed all in white standing up in a little cart
pulled by a donkey in Cairo at 1 AM
as our bus drove us from the airport
to our hotel by the pyramids.
They were clipping along
and her long hair was flying in the breeze. 
***
December 2010
In Puerto Vallarta,14-year-old Jonathan 
honed his bargaining skills.
At the top of a plaza overlooking the ocean and harbor
Jonathan shows us a glass turtle he bought for $20.
“Too much.”
“He wanted $30.”
“Don’t pay over $3.”
We took it back and got Jonathan’s money back;
He bought gifts for himself, his sisters, and mom
with the $20 he saved and in Cabo
he bought a glass turtle for $3.  No bargaining.

He has operated two side-by-side shops for 25 years here.
We've probably talked to him before.
(I wanted a picture of his pony tail.)


This picture is for Carol and Verla.
The Norweigian Jewel docked in the same bay.
One of the bottom windows is ours. All ours.
We've rarely had a window.
When Amy went with us,
we had a balcony - free upgrade.
She slept on the balcony every night
and then was upset when the whistle woke
her up as we left a port.


A Mexican dog guarding.
The Xoloitzxuintli is considered a natural treasure in Mexico
and is a traditional favorite in the World's Ugliest Dog Contest.


  Touching the Mighty Pacific Ocean.








Carnival Miracle
Like Amy, I like gnarly trees.
Ed and I went to Deck 10 to watch the sunset and say good bye to Puerto Vallarta.


Always makes us feel at home.








Next to our table was a fellow eating alone,
obviously listening to our conversation.
We were talking about burial plots and cremation
and all sorts of appetizing subjects.
“I want to be cremated,” DeRay says,
"with my ashes in a pinebox.
I only want one pall bearer
and I want them to be buried with me."
The guy at the next table interrupts solemnly:
“I wouldn’t be your pall bearer.”
We hardly had laughed the whole trip, even at the comedians,
but we laughed so heartily and long at that.
DeRay ran into him in the restroom;
he confirmed that he still didn’t want to be a pall bearer,
then as he passed our table at breakfast
he wondered if we still needed a pall bearer.
We meant to get his phone number but we never saw him again.

Eddy was on one today.
He rarely talks but he kept up a constant chatter this morning.
“I’m winning, Mr. Ruin Everything.” (getting ready to shower).
“We haven’t got all day.”
“Wouldn’t want to put you out.”
I said something about the long line for breakfast.
“We don’t need two complainers. We’ve already got one.”
“I hope you’re not goofing off.”
“21.0 knots – my favorite speed.”
“Puerto Vallarta, my favorite port!”
“You’re not a kid anymore.” (When DeRay was watching cartoons.)
“You should enjoy every minute we’re here.”
“He who cares least wins.”
“Somebody sure grunts – grunt – grunt – grunt- grunt. That’s what you’re good at.” “Somebody’s got knobby knees.”
“Well, somebody’s got to feed the fish.”
“I can’t believe we’re on my favorite ocean.”
“I sure love this current that we’re going against.
You can see these currents because they are always moving.”
DeRay said something about currents you eat,
“No. No. I’m talking about ocean currents.”
“Where’s the sun, that we’re orbiting?”
I said something about Dad crushing me.
“That’s what husbands do,” he affirmed.
DeRay’s shoes squeak when he walks.
“I can’t believe we’re living with a mouse.”
“I love ‘sea day’.”
“Is that A-B-C?”
“S-e-a,” he clarifies.
“We’re going to Long Beach, our final destination.” 
“I love formal night. I’ll take it over packing any day.”
“You know why I like formal night? Because it’s so formal-ie.”




“Thank you for bringing me. The comedian told us to thank our parents.”






This was Sammy's first week back on the ship
after being home for three months.
He's putting two sons through college.
Been here for 17 years.
He doesn't go home - India - again
for 8 months.
I though, "You know, that's not so different
than my dad out with the sheep for
days, weeks or months
leaving Mama home alone with the kids."


Eddy loves the debarkation assembly.
Meeting the Captain.
Carnival is a ship for children?
Nude statues and pictures everywhere.
Of course, for the Panama Canal Cruise
we had live models.
No need for statues or pictures.










Glass elevator from deck 1 to 10.




  
Out of the room by 8:30,
exactly when we had to be out of the room.
We walked ¾ the length of the ship and took the elevator to Deck 3,
even though they had only called Decks 6 and 7 (we were Deck 1).
We didn’t go to the back of the line;
we joined in and walked steadily and slowly for a little over an hour.
We walked back down to the center of the ship; out,
and back towards the front to walk the bridge,
probably the length of a football field,
to the tent for customs.
It was 9 AM when Ed and I walked off the ship.
We did get a break in customs.
Instead of making us walk through the back and forth lines,
she sent us directly across to the front of the line to the customs officials.
Then we went down and walked across the big tent
where most everyone had their luggage
but we were pulling ours.
Then we walked across the pavilion to cross the street
to catch the elevator to walk to our car.
By the time I got everything situated,
DeRay got off the elevator
and I only pulled his luggage to the car.
It may have been a 2 mile walk from our room to the car.
It sure felt like it.
It was way too much for DeRay.
It took Ed and me from 8:30 and 9:35.
Looking towards Long Beach from the bridge.

This is out 11th cruise.
Did it take us that long to discover the purpose of cruises?
It’s not to gain knowledge or even experience;
it’s not to meet new people and make new friends;
it’s not to bond with those you already know;
it’s not to be entertained;
it’s not to see new places, study new cultures;
it’s not to exercise, play games, visit, swim, hot tub;
watch the sunsets, currents, dolphins or whales.
Or even to have chocolates on your pillow each night.
The purpose of a cruise,
when you sum it all up,
is to slow us down; help us be still; let go;
calm down with no responsibilities;
to restore, reset, rebirth.
To feel the warmth of the sun on sandy beaches.
So that we are ready to assume the routine responsibilities
of cooking and cleaning that are the true sources
of happiness and contentment.

Friday, March 31, 2017

Not at all what we had in mind. . .

Friday, March 31 – I woke up this morning just a little after 9, after going to bed at 11:30, thinking, “I’m better.” And it’s about time. Nearly two weeks.
Ed, who hadn’t been downstairs once yesterday, was ready for breakfast. He started throwing up two days ago and hasn’t been able to keep a thing down. Finally last night he kept a little pedeolite down and had a good night’s rest. Basically, he slept all day yesterday, which is good but worrisome.
So we had breakfast, a poached egg and juice. Ed watched something on TV with his dad and I did a Jacuzzi. It totally wore me out. I took a nap before lunch. I guess it will take awhile. I’m still coughing, but not as much. It’s my first day without Depends and how liberating.
We got home from the cruise feeling fine but later that same Sunday, it hit. I told Emily it was when she called to tell us that her mother had died last night. I loved her mother. She was my friend and mentor. I can’t imagine church or DUP without her.
I’ve more or less been in a fog the 13 days since. I went to the doctor on Monday, hoping to be better to do my presentation for Fine Arts Club that I had been working on off and on for six months. By Tuesday, I couldn’t raise my head off the pillow nor could I talk. I didn’t have pneumonia or the flu. Just bronchitis but I didn’t get better. My cough got worse.
By Wednesday, I thought I might be allergic to the $42 (our co-pay) antibiotics the doctor prescribed. DeRay got Dr. Beus to prescribe the same kind he and Ed were taking. I would sit up most of the night because when I lie down I cough.
Emily sent food over from the funeral; Elizabeth brought chicken soup with homemade German pasta called spaetzle, rolls, and tarts. Amy made her delicious Vietnamese Chicken Pho a couple of times. When Verla came down for her birthday, gratefully she brought two kinds of soup so we survived somehow. Brooke and Elizabeth also brought enchiladas and tarts another day.  I made rice pudding one of the early days and cooked a fish dinner and then I was through. I vacuumed once and mopped the floor twice. After the washing machine came on Friday – oh, yes, the washer was broken when we got home, so by the time we got a washing machine, we had over two weeks worth of dirty clothes, plus all the icky bedding - I washed twice. We barely kept our heads above water. I don't know how DeRay bought a washing machine.
I wrote an email to Brent and Brooke and told them their dad was dying. “Why’d you do that?” “Because that’s what you told me when you came home from the doctor.” His lungs were filling with fluid, his oxygen was low, terrible sores on his shin and now bronchitis. Brent was good to call and Brooke and Elizabeth were angels of mercy.
We felt very lucky to get off the cruise ship and drive all the way home before we got sick. How awful it would have been otherwise. And the basement wasn’t flooded. With the rain this week, it’s seeping into the basement so Amy keeps a watchful eye.
I went with Verla to the Garden Restaurant to celebrate her 71st birthday, also with Carol and Verda, but I was in a daze, determined not to ruin her birthday but I probably did. DeRay and Eddy picked me up at Carol's where Melissa got up from her migraine-sick bed to keep me company. Carol and Verla went to the play at PMT, then the next morning they went on down to Cedar City to spent some time with Shirley to celebrate her 88th birthday.
The hour I spent sitting in the sun on the deck on Wednesday was my best hour. That and the medications and teas Amy showered on me. Turmeric, cinnamon stick, whole cloves, nutmeg, fresh ginger, black pepper steeped for 20 minutes, served with coconut milk and honey was my favorite. “How come Amy is so good to you?” Ed asks. I’ll tell you, it was much appreciated. “Mothers don’t ask sons how they are feeling,” Ed tells me when I ask how he is. I didn’t know that DeRay had awful sores on his legs before we left for the cruise. His whole shin is oozing gaping red sores. Dr. Bues checked them again when we got home and he thought they were healing. When I saw them, I didn’t agree. We put salve and gauze on them. We haven’t looked but he says they are still painful.
So we were planning three cremations since we don’t have burial plots. Actually, I told DeRay, I could be cremated but I couldn’t do that to Eddy. I don’t think Eddy had the flu. He doesn’t blow his nose and he doesn’t spit up phlegm like most of us and I think when his system gets saturated, he throws up until it is cleansed.
I wonder when we will ever feel like exercise again. I’ve never gone this long without doing stretches, let alone swimming and machines at the gym, and riding our beloved trikes. I can’t fathom doing any of them ever again.  My ribs hurt with every cough. They are sore to touch. It’s been a surreal experience. To emerge from the fog. I think about what Shirley said when we stopped by to see her on our way to the cruise ship. “It’s as hard to come back as it was to go,” she laments. For her, it was more than two weeks, it’s closer to two years.


Monday, March 6, 2017

The Dog

One Sunday, I walked home from church
with our neighbor.
He was rushing home between meetings
to take care of a new puppy.
(I was home for good.)
He said he hoped the new puppy would
teach his kids responsibility,
as well as love.
At first, I would see all four kids
gleefully walking the puppy each morning;
laughing and skipping,
walking, skate boarding and biking.
Eventually, I noticed Nate
was walking the dog with three children trailing along.
Then Nate and two children.
Then father and the youngest son
walking the dog.
Now as stand in front of my window doing tree pose,
 I see only Nate faithfully walking the dog
each and every morning.

Sunday, February 26, 2017

Two Basic Questions

First Question:
If God personally directs each Church, how come religious organizations are the last to accept social equality—each person regardless of place or circumstances of birth with inalienable rights? Why aren’t churches leading in social justice? Why do they lag 20 years behind? And why do they file lawsuits that demean people?
“And he inviteth them all to come unto him and partake of his goodness; and he denieth none that come unto him, black and white, bond and free, male and female; and he remembereth the heathen; and all are alike unto God, both Jew and Gentile” ( 2 Ne 26:33) The brotherhood of man is literal. We are all of one blood and the literal spirit offspring of our eternal Heavenly Father. Before we came to earth we belonged to his eternal family. We associated and knew each other there. Our common paternity makes us not only literal sons and daughters of eternal parentage, but literal brothers and sisters as well. This is a fundamental teaching of The church of Jeus Christ of Latter-day Saints. (Howard W. Hunter).
"Who, then, are our neighbors? All men everywhere who need our help. Whether they be across the street, across the continent or over the ocean, whether they be friend of foe - they are our neighbors, if we can help them. And we will not ask whether they belong to our family, or our church, or our country, or our party, any more than wer would if someone were crying for help from a burning buildfing. If they need our help, they are our neighbors." Elder Hugh Be Brown (1958).
 “Love is one of the chief characteristics of Deity, and ought to be manifested by those who aspire to be the sons of God. A man filled with the love of God, is not content with blessing his family alone, but ranges through the whole world, anxious to bless the whole human race.” -- Joseph Smith
I'm assuming that includes everyone in the LBGT community, immigrants, the handicapped, those who are sick and tired.
"Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons: "But in every nation he that feareth him, and worketh righteousness, is accepted with him." (Acts 10:34-35)

Second Question:
If God is love; how come the brethren are so mean to certain members who through no fault of their own are on the road less traveled? Why do they want to hurt those who are already hurting? Why don’t they listen carefully when people talk; show respect and tolerance for differences?
Our Church sends out around 80,000 missionaries to convert people to the Gospel. It seems to me that if they would just be kind to their members, everyone would see how happy they are and would flock to hear the Gospel. Instead, they control and dictate ultimatums for no good reason that rob people of their heart’s desires and happiness; making faithful members feel isolated, invisible, worthless.
Why spend $20 million (or whatever – much more than they reported) to block gay marriage in one state? How do Gay Marriages harm my family or the sanctity of the family?  After listening to a couple of podcasts, one where gay parents talk about the joy their adoptive son has brought into their lives and the inclusion of the birth mother and father into their circle of love; and another where a guy who was bullied throughout his school years and is now an activists for LBGT rights speaks so lovingly of all others. It sort of reminds me of the way Jesus was treated and even crucified, yet he spoke tenderly of everyone. Do you have to suffer excruciating pain and be abandoned to really be like Jesus? Maybe we can’t do it by just keeping the commandments in the comfort of our normal unchallenged lives. Disabilities, illness, accidents, and being born out of the norm are perhaps the refiner’s fire. Maybe they are the only ones who will enter the Kingdom of God. For sure, they will show us the way.
Rather than the religions of the world, the disenfranchised are talking about our need to be strong, to work together; to find empathy, regardless of age, skin color, handicap, sexual orientation or any other schism; with compassion and respect for each other. To walk in each other’s shoes. Shouldn’t that message be coming from God?  Maybe it is. 

Friday, February 17, 2017

Happier, Healthier, and More Creative

An obituary in the newspaper read: Our mother was a classy lady; always dressed to the nines. She never left the house without makeup, jewelry and perfume.
I’m 99.9% sure that I will not be remembered that way. I like to wear sweats every day; take pride in the fact that I can do my hair in 5 minutes—just gel, no blow dryer or curling iron; no perfume, minimum jewelry. Heck, I can do all my morning stretches in the time most people spend doing their hair and makeup. This one lady at the gym spends an hour, I swear, doing her hair and makeup. Gooey stuff on her eye lashes, eye liner, thick makeup, not to mention all the steps she takes on her hair. "Are you getting beautiful to go to work or to have lunch with the Queen of England?" I asked her one day. "No. I'm retired. I'm just going home." I told DeRay if it took me that long to do my hair and makeup after I swim, I would never go swimming. I'm in and out of the dressing room in 20 minutes, including a shower. I waste make-up money in other ways, like pills for my joints that may or may not help.
So how will my obituary read?
How will I be remembered?
I think I want to be known as a “Person of Nature”. Out in nature is where I feel the most content. Especially this week, after I listened to a podcast where Doug Fabrizio interviewed Florence Williams, the author of The Nature Fix, an intrepid investigation into nature’s restorative benefits. Why does nature makes us happier, healthier and more creative? 
For centuries, poets and philosophers extolled the benefits of a walk in the woods: Beethoven drew inspiration from rocks and trees; Wordsworth composed while tromping over the heath; Nikola Tesla conceived the electric motor while visiting a park. Intrigued by our storied renewal in the natural world, Florence Williams sets out to uncover the science behind nature's positive effects on the brain.
From forest trails in Korea, to islands in Finland, to groves of eucalyptus in California, Williams investigates the science at the confluence of environment, mood, health, and creativity. Delving into completely new research, she uncovers the powers of the natural world to improve health, promote reflection and innovation, and ultimately strengthen our relationships. As our modern lives shift dramatically indoors, these ideas—and the answers they yield—are more urgent than ever.
Humans are born with an innate love for other moving things and if we don’t cultivate it at an early age, we can lose it. The biggest exodus of all time is not only moving from rural areas to the city but migrating from the out-of-doors to indoors. In one study, 79% of mothers said they went outside every day; 29% of children spend time outside every day. That’s in one generation.  We have pivoted further away from nature than any generation before us. We are afflicted with mass generational amnesia. How can we get nature back in our lives in order to be our best selves?
They did a study involving tens of thousands of people, asking about their moods. Most people were most unhappy when at work or were sick. The majority were happiest when outside. It didn’t matter who they were with or what they were doing, they were significantly happier when they were outside. Being out in nature takes away stress, makes us think more clearly. Why are we spending so much time indoors away from nature?
Another study, they had people walk for 15 minutes in the woods while another group walked 15 minutes in the city. The cortisone, a hormone produced by the adrenal cortex, levels, which measures stress, were significantly lower in the people who walked in the woods. So exercise is not the answer.
Nature heals. Nature can elevate our immune system for up to three weeks. We are a part of nature; always have been; always will be. In the United States, we are trained to think that nature is something we dominate, utilize, change.  Instead, nature changes our brains and our bodies. When we are in nature, we stop taking ourselves so seriously.
We are not always the best judges of what is best for ourselves. For example, we think going shopping will make us feel good, or watching television; while under-valuing how good nature will make us feel.
Other countries have taken this more seriously. In Japan they have forest bathing. You just hang out in the forest, strolling or sitting; opening up all five senses to the woods; paying attention to what you are smelling, what you are feeling—feeling the breeze on your face. Learning to be mindful.  Smells reach the brain quickly – changing mood, changing behavior; invigorating us, making us more calm, less stressed, more energy; boasting our moods.
They locked people in a hotel room. In one room they misted with essential oils from the Cyprus trees.  For the other group, they sprayed water.  The group that were misted with essential oil had much healthier profiles.  
We were evolved to walk, walk, walk; to sit around the campfire and talk.
Air pollution not only affects our lungs, the particles go through the nose directly into the brain. Air pollution in this country kills three times more people than traffic accidents.
The dominant perception is sight. They did a window studies.  After patients had gall bladder surgery, records showed that those who were placed by a window with beautiful views of lawns and flowers asked for less pain meditation and were released from the hospital sooner than those who had no window or the window only showed a brick wall. Even observing nature through a window is beneficial.
Doctors are beginning to prescribe nature as medicine.
Our Park Service is putting dollars and expertise into getting people into nature.
Our own David Strayer has known for a long time that there's a restorative power in nature. The University of Utah psychologist is an avid hiker, but his latest research quantifies the benefits of turning off your technology and getting outdoors. After 4 days in the wilderness with no cell phones, laptops or gadgets, people were 50% better at creative problem-solving.
Actually, after only three days in the wilds, something profound shifts in our brains, suddenly we are getting ideas we’ve never had before. Five hours a month in the woods, keeps people from getting depressed and helps them heal.
Perhaps if I emerge myself deeply within the healthy healing woods, I will never die; no obituary needed.

Sunday, February 12, 2017

Life after Death


What I really want to know is
when I die
where do I go?
how do I get there?
what do I do when I get there?
Literally, not philosophically.

I’m interested in Jack Spong’s views on religion and heaven and hell, especially in regards to my last blog.
Two of his reforms are:
11. The hope for life after death must be separated forever from the behavior control mentality of reward and punishment. The Church must abandon, therefore, its reliance on guilt as a motivator of behavior.
12. All human beings bear God's image and must be respected for what each person is. Therefore, no external description of one's being, whether based on race, ethnicity, gender or sexual orientation, can properly be used as the basis for either rejection of discrimination.

—Notes from a Dr. Doug Fabrizio Podcast on KUER January 17, 2017  - “Biblical Literalism” John Shelby "Jack" Spong. Spong is a retired American bishop of the Episcopal Church; a convinced and committed Christian.

Religion is an evolving thing. The Christian church has trafficked in guilt for so long because that is the way you control behavior. Guilt is the gift that keeps on giving. If you make people guilty enough you can control them forever. I don’t know if guilt ever does anything good for people’s humanity. Primary message that comes out of church is that I am guilty. We’re always denigrating our humanity. I don’t believe we’re fallen. I believe we’re incomplete. I believe that the task of the Christian church is to help incomplete people become complete people; not to help guilty people get over their guilt by being punished. Life is holy; all life is holy; life is loved; all life is loved; and life is called to be all that it is capable of being. That’s not what we hear.

Dr. Fabrizio asked about the apocalypse.
The only place it is mentioned is in Matthew Chapter 25.
The questions are neither religious nor political. They don’t ask if you go to church; have been baptized, etc., they only ask, “Have you been able to see the Face of God in the faces of the least of these, my brothers and sisters?”
When you saw people hungry did you realize that to give them food was to give God food?
When you saw them thirsty, did you realize that to give them water was to give God water?
Because the only way you can serve God is to serve your fellow human beings.
That’s the whole standard of judgement we have lost.
Instead (and here’s the part that relates to my last blog), we have developed a heaven and hell: Heaven a place where God rewards good people and hell where God punishes bad people.
I don’t think those make any sense at all.
A modern parent would not raise his or her child on the basis if you’re a good boy, you’ll get a reward; if you’re a bad girl you’ll get a punishment. Because we know that’s not a proper way to raise children. That only fills them with guilt and inadequacy. Yet the Christian church still operates on that principle that good people are going to receive the reward and bad people are going to receive the punishment. I think we’ve gotten God and Santa Claus confused. Santa Claus is the one who’s making a list and checking it twice and is going to find out who’s naughty and nice. And the purpose of that list for Santa Claus is to give good presents to good children and coals or switches or whatever is negative to bad children. That’s just really immature. We’ve got to get beyond that kind of understanding of God. I see God as the source of life calling me to live; I see God as the source of life freeing me to love; I see God as the ground of being encouraging me to be all that I can be. The mission of the church is to build a world where everybody in that world has a better opportunity to live fully; love wastefully and be all that they are capable of being. That’s what our business is.
But you don’t hear that when you attend most of our churches on Sunday Morning.

Some of John Shelby Spong’s published quotes:
*All religion seems to need to prove that it's the only truth. And that's where it turns demonic. Because that's when you get religious wars and persecutions and burning heretics at the stake.
*I want the traditional family upheld, but I don't want it upheld to the detriment of other people.
*It appears to be in the nature of religion itself to be prejudiced against those who are different.
*Christianity is not about the divine becoming human so much as it is about the human becoming divine. That is a paradigm shift of the first order.
*When I grew up in the South, I was taught that segregation was the will of God, and the Bible was quoted to prove it. I was taught that women were by nature inferior to men, and the Bible was quoted to prove it. I was taught that it was okay to hate other religions, and especially the Jews, and the Bible was quoted to prove it.
*When I'm asked to define God, I'm almost wordless.
*I believe that is what the God experience does for us. It calls us beyond our limits into the fullness of life - into a capacity to love people we are not taught to love - and into an ability to be who we are.
*The Bible tells me that every life is holy; the Bible tells me that every life is loved; the Bible tells me that every life is called to be all that it can be.
*You can't have a world where 50 percent of the people are dieting and 50 percent of the people are starving if you want stability.
*The way you become divine is to become wholly human.
*If you begin to give people hope that there is a brighter future, there is a new tomorrow, then the people who were yesterday's terrorists become tomorrow's elected officials and they're part of the system.
*My basis of morality is this: does this action enhance life, or does it denigrate life? Does it build up or does it tear down?
When I first started thinking about my Mormon Heaven,
I could remember a podcast that I had heard that intrigued me
because of the guy's beliefs but I could not think of his name.
I thought I had taken notes but how do you find them?
I have the recent podcasts on my i-Pad so I looked there first.
I could not believe "Biblical Literalism" showed up. Has it been that recent?
At least I had his name, so I looked up John Spong.
My notes were in September 2016. I guess this was a repeat on January 17, 2017.
A coincidence? I would have never found him.
I've written several times about remembering as a child
thinking of Daddy up in heaven with green meadows and pretty flowers
while we were down here wallowing in the mud.


Saturday, February 4, 2017

My Mormon Heaven

I dream of a Mormon heaven
Where we sit at Jesus’ feet
In a lovely green meadow
Surrounded by exquisite flowers
Of every hue.

 In family groups, where we meet
The ones who died prematurely;
Still part of our family.
No aches or pains.
No accidents or illness.
No guilt or remorse.
Energy and vitality abound.
Total equality, honor and respect.
It’s not called human rights;
It's called heavenly rights.
No rich or poor.
All are free.
Everyone is happy and smiling;
Peaceful and kind.
Love. Love. Love.
Forever and ever.
Well, maybe do a little genealogy
But I don’t see why.
Everyone knows everyone.
In the Mormon Heaven
I learned about as a child.

    On the other hand,
if one gets too many black marks,
off to hell with you,
where you are continually burning

but never consumed.
Worrisome for a child;
unfathomable.