Even
though I rescheduled my whole week and especially my day, I still was not sorry
to miss DUP today. Ed and I went swimming yesterday because I thought I would
be gone today. It was very crowded and irksome. We hurried and went on our
trike ride before we went swimming so we wouldn’t be so late because I had Fine
Arts Club in the evening. Basically, the whole day was screwed up but it set me
free for Wednesday. This morning I got up early and did my Yoga stretches, then
hurried and showered before breakfast so I could spend the morning with Eddy
before DUP at noon. Billie didn’t ever call me so around 10:30 I called her
home and got her son-in-law, Bob. “Billie’s not here. In fact, she’s out of
town for two weeks basking on the beach at Carlsbad.” Right then and there, I decided not to go to
DUP even though I had turned my days upside down to make it. But what if Gayle,
her daughter, stops by for me? I didn’t
want to call her for fear she would think I expected her to pick me up. For
peace of mind, I decided to clear the air so I called her. She hadn’t given me
a thought. She wasn’t planning on going either. So it all worked out and I felt
as relieved as a kid sluffing school.
I
celebrated by eating the last of Ed’s birthday cake then going on a trike ride
in the warmness of the day, feeling like I had a gift of two extra hours and
wouldn’t be bored out of my gourd. On my trike ride, Don and Peggy Butcher
stopped to visit as they drove from where they are building a new house on the
property they sold to developers in 2013. They bulldozed their house down but
they had an option to buy three lots back, which they did. They are living on
the 7th floor of an apartment in Layton while their house is being built.
They said Trent, who was Brooke’s friend in high school, had adopted a Korean
boy. They have 17 grandchildren. They look younger than they did 25 years ago
when they were divided from us.
Talking
to them made me out and about the neighborhood just as women were leaving for
DUP. Barbara Hunsaker stops. “Are you going to DUP?” “Nope. Give them my excuse. I forgot to call.”
And I again mused how much I hate clubs.
I
did think of one redeeming virtue. It is hearing the stories I would never have
heard if I hadn’t joined. These women are all older, living long abundant
lives.
Like
last night, Kay Twogood was talking about Becky Lockhart. She was at the next table so I couldn’t
exactly hear her. “Did you say Becky Lockhart was your niece?” “Yes.” And then she went on to tell everyone
the story of how she ended up raising her sister’s children. I had heard that
story before but what I didn’t know was that one of the children she raised was
Becky Lockhart’s father. Becky was her grandniece but since she raised her dad,
doesn’t that make Becky her granddaughter? The family was in an auto accident near
Bakersfield and both parents were killed. Ironically, Kay and her new husband
happened by the accident after they had been on an outing, and stopped to take
pictures, hoping they could sell them to the news media. Since they were
driving a new car, they never realized it was her own sister’s family until
they were back to their parent’s house and got the call from the police,
telling them they had their grandchildren in the hospital but didn’t tell them
the parents were killed until they got there. At first the grandchildren lived
with their grandparents but they were getting older. Kay and Theran, who was a
school teacher, would go help out in the summertime. Eventually, as the parents
grew more infirm, the three children came to live with Kay and Theran permanently.
And that is how she came to be the grandmother of Becky Lockhart, Utah’s Iron
Woman.
Former House Speaker Becky Lockhart remembered as pioneer, mom, friend
By ROBERT GEHRKE | The Salt Lake Tribune
First Published Jan 22
2015 12:30PM •
Family, friends, political allies and
opponents gather to mourn the loss and praise the legacy of an outstanding
Utahn.
Former House Speaker
Becky Lockhart was remembered Thursday as a leader of strong conviction, an
inspiration to Utah women, a mentor, a caring friend and loving mother during a
service in the state Capitol.
"She believed in the state. She
believed in the community. She believed in her neighbors and constituents and
those she represented and believed she should give them her very best, which
she did," said Gov. Gary Herbert. "Utah is a better place because
Becky Lockhart served here and contributed so much to all of us."
Lockhart, who was Utah's first female House
speaker, died Saturday at age 46 from a rare neurological disease that claimed
her life within weeks of the first symptoms. A mother of three, Lockhart served
16 years in the House, the last four as speaker. An estimated 1,200 people
gathered at the Capitol for the solemn and tear-filled service.
"I've not served in this House without
Becky as a guide, as a mentor, as a leader," said House Speaker-elect Greg
Hughes, R-Draper. "Of all the things she has taught me, she left me
unprepared for a day like this. She's still our speaker."
Emily Britton, one of Lockhart's three children,
recalled growing up with her mother in the Utah House, visiting the Capitol
during the session and later interning when her mother was speaker.
"She brought us along on her journey.
She encouraged us to ask questions and be engaged in discussions," Britton
said. "My mom taught [my sister] Hannah and I to be strong women. … I
think now she would be proud to know that not only did she pave the way for us,
she paved the way for every Utah woman."
Sen. Curt Bramble, R-Provo, a close friend
of Becky and her husband, Stan, for two decades, said the public perception of
Lockhart as "Utah's Iron Lady" is "merely a caricature of the
incredibly warm and caring person Becky really is."
"On any given day," Bramble said,
"Becky would be the one who, after a long day at the Capitol, could be
found helping her son changing the oil in his old beat-up Jeep or helping to
fix a leaky faucet."
Catherine Dupont, a legislative attorney,
told a story of working on a bill that Lockhart opposed. The speaker called the
sponsor of the bill into her office and expressed her feelings "with great
conviction."
"What I learned that day is I didn't
ever want to be on the other end of that kind of conversation with Speaker
Lockhart. … Her political woodshed was tough," said Dupont. But she also
remembered seeing her have quiet conversations and shedding tears with her
colleagues, even in the busiest times of the session.
"Despite all the hubbub," Dupont
said, "she loved her fellow legislators and took time out for that human
touch."
And she said that, like it or not, as a
professional woman, Lockhart was a role model for other women and showed that
women can serve at the highest levels of government.
"To know a woman can have a family,
can be intelligent and can step forward and run for office and serve the
community … I hope that legacy she leaves behind will be a lasting one,"
Dupont said.
Former House Minority Leader David Litvack,
D-Salt Lake City, said that Lockhart embraced their differences and made him
feel valued as a person. Becky and Stan Lockhart and their daughter celebrated
Passover at his home, and they attended Rep. Jennifer Seelig's wedding
together. Litvack also attended the marriage of Lockhart's daughter.
"It was times like these that I got to
know Becky as more than a colleague and tremendous leader," Litvack said.
"I got to know Becky as a person, the wonderful and beautiful human being
that she was.
"My dear friend, you will be sorely
missed by so many," Litvack said. "Thank you on behalf of my daughter
and all the daughters out there for leading the way. Thank you for making me a
better person."
Rep. Francis Gibson, R-Mapleton, said
Lockhart was a pioneer and a trailblazer for women and a friend and mentor to
fellow legislators.
"I will miss her this session and
everyone in the House will," Gibson said. "To my colleagues in the
House, both past and present: She loved serving with each one of you. She would
often say to me, 'Francis, we have great people in this House and what a great
privilege it is to serve with them.' Your friendship meant more to her than you
will ever know."
Elder D. Todd Christofferson, a member of
the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day
Saints, quoted Ralph Waldo Emerson, that "it's not the length of life, but
the depth."
"There's no question that Becky
Lockhart's life was one of depth and accomplishment," Christofferson said.
"She leaves multiple legacies that I'm convinced will reach across
generations."
A
couple of months ago, Marilyn, my secretary in Fine Arts Club had a freak
accident and crashed her car into a building (she went forward instead of backward)
– on the anniversary of an accident when she was living in Moab and driving her
children to Salt Lake when she hit black ice killing two of her three children.
Jeannie
and her husband decided to move back to their hometown from Washington State
where they had raised their family. They searched for a wheelchair friendly
house--and he died two weeks after they moved in. Her son, with a large family,
now has cancer.
Janie’s
daughter is living with them while she undergoes breast cancer treatment.
Sylvia’s
only daughter died last summer; as well as two long-time members of the Fine
Arts Club. Two are confined to Assisted Living residences.
These
stories of undaunted courage and survival inspire and embolden me.
I
wrote in a blog in November that I wasn’t created to join clubs but I believe I
was created to listen to their stories of valor.
I was trying to get Ed
to tell me where Billie Timothy went. He heard me talking to Bob on the phone.
I could not think of the place. I knew he knew but he wouldn’t tell me.
I coaxed and coaxed.
“It is driving me
crazy, Ed. All I can think of is Saratoga Springs. Tell, me. You don’t want me
to be crazy do you?”
“Too late,” he
deadpans.
Suddenly, it came to
me. “Carlsbad!”
“Duh,” he says smugly.
